One of the hardest and most difficult lessons I’ve learned in my life is to keep faith in myself ánd in the other….even when I felt hurt, angry or sad.
Anchoring again and again in the wisdom of my heart. Contemplating the situation from that vibrational field. Gradually, when I grew up, I became more aware on a personal cognitive level of the fact that in my younger years I confused feeling and thought (interpretation of feelings).
A wonderful lesson in emotional disentanglement and denouement! My shadow wisdom in this life. Clearing and cleansing the emotional field transforming conflicts into understanding 🙂
In the beginning I felt vulnerable when I told my partner or my friends that they were important to me, also during a conflict when doubting and undermining thoughts demanded attention within me, and I consciously realized that it was my choice how to deal with this.
It also felt liberating and joyful because I stayed true to my inner Being, speaking my inner felt truth of that moment, that phase of development. It made me less and less emotionally dependent from them and from their approval. I moved from feeling co-dependent to independency. And from there into interdependence!
The space and the soft silent open space in my heart, always my starting point. A continuous lemniscate movement between the other(s), the world, and myself, in which the meeting point was this point of stillness. Neutral. I felt more and more free, openhearted, openminded, and joyful.
When I started teaching communication courses – in addition to my yoga classes – I was able to transfer these experiences into practical exercises and very recognizable practical examples. An energy-transmission.
Nowadays I observe that honest, transparant and openhearted communication is still difficult. Especially if an ‘identification’ has taken place with one polarity. Both poles male and female, light and dark, black and white exist and belong together. They create an inner dance, a movement of life-in-action.
Yin cannot do without Yang and vice versa. If one pool has served it’s purpose life’s movement moves to the other pole. First in extreme movements and behavior and then, slowly but surely, creating a new balance in the ( new) space consciousness in the middle.
Struggling constructively, in which you learn to transform the existing differences and confusions with the help of each other’s mirror into explicit wishes, needs and desires, without making the other person responsible for it, gives appreciation, respect and space. Freedom – in – interconnectedness!
At the same time, we show a different behavior towards our children and grandchildren. It addresses the inner confidence that you can stand up for yourself without losing love ánd without always getting your will /way through forcing / demanding it.
It mainly focusses on competences and creative development instead of belittling, accusing and disapproving. So we all are learning to be Present in the Present, looking and living through the eyes of the Spirit, Soul and the loving Heart in all simplicity and purity.
Annet Hoeijmans-Boon(c).